Keys to a Successful Relationship

Achieving a successful relationship or marriage. I know it is strange to write about this in a blog that is mostly about adventures in hiking, running and cycling, but I thought i would put this out there to the world. Knowing so many failed marriages and relationship I thought it would be fitting to point out some of the things I have learned in the past. I do not, in no way, claim I am an expert in relationship. Far from it, but I do try.

1. Having a Good communication and honesty. I don't know how much I can stress this. If you can not talk to your partner in an openly way about things then the relationship will be bound to fail. when you have things on your mind and let them go without discussing it, it will usually manifest itself elsewhere. Without communication, many will hold a grudge. Holding a grudge is definitely not productive for a relationship. One important rule about communication is to talk in a respectful manner. Talking is great but if you don't do it with respect, it is pointless. Another aspect to communication is listening. Not only is talking good, but also being a good listener and understanding.

2. Don't let things fester on, resolve it now and don't hold it in. It will come back years later. This is related to communication. If you have something in your mind, bring it up and resolve it. If you are unhappy, then bring it up. You don't want resentment to come up later.

3. Keep your passion of the relationship alive. Just because you are comfortable or married doesn't mean it end there. You want to keep the flames of love burning. Once the love fizzles out, then it is harder to ignite that flame of passion again. Keep alive and burning.

4. Compromise. Every relationship requires a compromise and agreement. You are not just one person, you are 2 people, a partnership a team. Have it her way now, later agree to have it your way the next.

5. Trust. You need to trust each other. If you don't, then there is a problem. You know you are in a good relationship when you don't have to worry about your partner cheating on you. You don't worry when your partner is working late. If you start becoming suspicious of your partner then that is not a good sign.

6. Dependability - Having a partner that is dependable and reliable will give you a great sense of security within the relationship. When times are tough and you hit rocky patches in your life it is important to know that somebody will be there for you.

7. Individuality - Knowing that your partner is also different with different likes and dislikes is also important. Not allowing yourself to stifle your partners hopes and dreams and likes and allowing your partner to pursue hers or his interest is important.